You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.
Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…
Over the years, I’ve learnt—albeit slowly, it seems—about many mistakes I’ve been doing.
Not paying attention to women’s body language, not trying to go in for the first kiss, it’s a long laundry list of things I go “Crap, I should have done that! But despite my efforts (and the assistance of friends over the years), I have never had a girlfriend or sex.
In a way, it feels like they cheated on you (and you can’t get it out of your head).
Unfortunately for them, they didn’t cheat on you, but they get treated as if they did.
I don’t usually try to go for/get a kiss on the first date, and I don’t try to force sex to happen right away.
And while I WANTED to be ready to date, and definitely had the online dating skill set to be ready to date, I was not emotionally ready to date. But I never gave her the opportunity she deserved to have all of me. If you were together for two years, you need one year of healing. I’d probably say it’s closer to one-tenth of the time. At the moment I am kind of in that position (on the recieving end) and I am treading carefully and so is the guy, since his 4 year rel ended over xmas, and he is just putting the pieces back together.I mean, all of his sexual needs are completely met by you, right? And all of his emotional needs are met by you, so it can’t be that he enjoys the ego boost of feeling desired by a woman…My point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow.As of recently, I try to find women between 25 and 42 years old.I’ve read a lot about what you’ve said about “Ineffective versus Effective” and “What I want in a woman versus what she wants about me”, and I guess I’m still a bit confused.Sometimes the more you want a person, the more their sexual past bothers you.